How many times have I said to myself “I am spiralling”? Many of us know the feeling of swirling deeper and deeper into negative emotions and feeling like we are sinking lower and lower into an abyss. A horrible feeling, yes, and one that feels extremely isolating and particularly lonely. We keep our pain silent at times, scared and unsure about asking for help because the nature of the beast is that we feel that we are the only ones suffering in this way. Dark. Alone. Heavy.
Why is it that we are afraid to share our common humanity? We feel the need to be strong and polished before we let the world see where we are truly at? The stigma has improved, yes. It still has a long way to go. We all have mental health. We need to pay attention to it. There are many of us that are hurting now, more than ever. Suffering alone and in silence. We need to pay attention. As I was walking today, breathing in some much-needed fresh air into my sinuses and brain, I reflected on how familiar we are with the downward spiral. But maybe not so aware of the upward spiral. Every single spot on the spiral can be a starting point. Where the downward momentum stops. We rest there a bit as we acknowledge, assimilate and make a conscious choice. The choice is in changing the energy of our movement on the emotional spiral. The lower vibrations of shame, anger, resentment are perfect starting points in terms of moving towards higher vibrations like contentment, joy, gratitude.
But here is the thing. We have to stop the downward movement first. We need to stop piling ourselves with the weight of:
· “I should have”
· “I wish I were ___”
· “why did ____ have to happen?”
Spend some time recognizing where we are at. Journal about it. Let some tears flow. Journal some more. Then comes the action. Make a choice. A small, but conscious choice to take an action that you have come to learn will raise your vibration. We all know the things that elevate our mood and cause no harm. Take the walk. Meditate for 5 minutes. 10 long and slow deep breaths. Dance. Workout. Have some water! Change my channel. It is all within my own power.
Let’s talk more about spiralling upwards. Let’s teach it to our children. Let’s re-learn it for ourselves. Spiralling upwards is a slow, methodic, grounded and empowering practice of taking consistent, small steps towards raising our vibration, and our mood. This may be connecting with our doctor, calling a friend, asking for help. If we are honest, many of us have been there. When everything fell away and all we were left with was just trying to make it through the day. Survival.
Moving upwards is a slow process. Consistent small actions are key. But just one choice at a time. The next right choice will reveal itself once we take a step. Achieving ‘boredom’ after feeling stuck in ‘jealousy’ can feel like an achievement. Feel the boredom. Rest in the boredom. And then take a small step. Even this will feel like something to celebrate. The upper emotions of joy, gratitude and enthusiasm can feel elusive. Especially if we are trying to feel them without having truly felt the emotions leading up to the top of the spiral. Each step is necessary, and we will move up and down as life throws its curveballs at us. Return to the things that you know light you up inside, YOUR best tools. And return to them every, single, day. Practice them.
I encourage you to check in on someone today. There is someone that needs to hear your voice. There is someone that would love to know they are on your mind. CONNECT with someone today. We need each other. And we need to know that we are not alone. Our lives depend on it.